Steps to getting what you WANT

Just as I was thinking about this particular subject -getting what we want in life, I thought let me google that and see what comes up :D and totally not to my surprise, there were LOTS of sites which said "Top 7 tips to get what you want" while another gave a discounted number of steps of "5 steps to getting anything you want"..hehehe..I thought if I search a little more I could reduce the number of steps to maybe a 3 step/1 step ;)

So it is because of the lack of these supposedly 'n' steps that we take, that what we want slips away from our hands? I don't think so..Like Madam Ogie said in the movie "Princess and the Frog" - what we NEED is more important that what we WANT. Confusing??

OK Lemme explain..you might want a big car, a beautiful house, a lovely wife, an awesome job....you would be thinking if I have all that, I would be happy and satisfied. NO! Because these are all your wants..behind which there lies some needs. Some very basic needs..the need to be loved, the need to be cared for, the need of security. It is basically these needs that we need to cater to in life(Just my opinion!)

I think the basic need of any human being is to love and be loved. The world would be tranformed if just that little thing is there in all human beings towards everything in their life. I have always felt that we have no clarity as to what we want in life ..ok lemme remove the 'WE' and make it 'I' cos u never know there may be awesome people who know exactly what they want in life and go after that and achieve it. But then what? Once you have achieved what you want, what to do with the rest of your life? Find a new WANT? I have felt in many cases that for me, not getting what I wanted at that particular time has turned out to be a blessing. It may be the case for many of you since we don't really know if that what we want is really something that we need.

This does not mean that you should not want anything in your life :) I only mean to say that anything that you want is available to you in the Universe, but really really think if that is what you need.

Once you have found what your WANT really is..which would be more of a NEED, there will be no force in the Universe that can stop you from getting that.

So now you know the 1 step way to get what you want;)

Mom's the word!!

So there I was sitting in the car, waiting for the signal to turn green...looking outside the window when suddenly one of the usual beggars that we see at traffic signal comes up to our window. I look away that very instant b'cos I don't want her to think I will give her any money....through the corner of my eye I watched her fade away to the background to the vehicles behind, tapping at car windows, pleading at the people in the rickshaw. I noticed she had a sling that was hanging from her shoulder and a small child..an infant in it. A small tremor of sadness crossed my mind...was it her kid? Was she begging for food to give the child? Was she the mother?

Somehow my thoughts went back to my own mom. It is not everyday that we realize the importance of our mothers. Realize the sacrifices they did for us, the troubles they took bringing us up. I was so used to having my Amma in my life..I took her for granted. She who would do anything for me without complaints, without me requesting, without expecting anything in return..I mean who would do such things for you without expecting anything in return. Not even a simple thanks..not even a good word..which we miss to give too.

My mom has never talked about the things she has done for me or complained about me not giving her due importance. Instead she forgave many of my mistakes, put me closer to her and showed me that she would be there for me. The love of a mother is indeed amazing. I mean I think it is a special power that God gives to mothers that they are able to unconditionally love their children, come what may :)

It's true like someone said "God created mothers cause he couldn't be there for all". My Amma is surely my gift from God. She is simple, honest, compassionate and loves all of us 3 kids in so subtle a way that we never knew her love until we were a little deprived of it.
Another thing that I love and is sooooooooooo SPECIAL about my Amma is that she never finds fault with a person, she always says it is the circumstance in which they are that makes them look bad. Everyone has goodness in them. She evens manages to happily forgive and even help those who have hurt her in many ways....I truly think these positive vibes have always helped me in life to be a positive person(although I may falter at times :):))

My Amma is surely a blessing in my life. I am indeed Blessed to have her in my life. My many thanks to the Lord for the wonderful mother that I have. I love my Amma so mach and I hope I'll be able to give the same to my kids.I believe any goodness that I have in me is because of my mom! She is the bestest of the best!!!

So to all the moms and moms-to-be, being a mom is not about buying expensive gifts, fulfilling all requirements that your child puts forward. It's about being able to love unconditionally.

Parayu ...Nee Parayu...

This is my all time favourite malayalam song. It is a soul touching rendering by Unni Menon. He has also acted in this movie. This is one of those songs that you will never get tired of listening :). Its not just the music or the rendering that makes this songs so special..it is also the lyrics that are really very .....i dont know wat to say for that :P
The base line of the lyrics is that the singer(the hubby) sings that even though I dont show any love towards you externally(the wife), how do you understand the love that I have in my heart for you...awwwwwwww....isnt that romantic :D..used to love it b4 marriage and love it after marriage too :)
Sharing the lyrics of this extremely melodious and meaningful song:

Oru Chempaneer Pooviruthu Njan Omalle..
Oru Vela Ninnerkku Neettiyilla..
Enkillum Engane Neeyarinju..
Ente Chempaneer Pookunnathay Ninakkai..
Sugandham Parathunathayi Ninakkai..
Parayu...Nee Parayu..

Oru Chempaneer Pooviruthu Njan Omalle
Oru Vela Nin Nerku Neetiyila

Akame Niranja Snehamaa..
Mathuryam Oru Vaakinal Thottu Njan Nalkiyilla
Nira Neelaraavile Ekandathayil
Nin Mizhiyile Nannavoppi Machathilla
Enkillum Nee Arinju
En Ninavennum Nin Ninvariyunathayi
Ninne...Thazunkunathayi..
Oru Chempaneer......Hmmmm

Thanniye Thelinja Bhavamaam
Shree Raagam Oru Maathra Nee Othu Njan Mooliyilla
Pularmanju Peyyunaa Yamathillum
Nin Mridhu Meni Onnu Thalodiyilla
Enkillum.. Nee Arinju
En Manamennum Nin Manam Ariyunnathaayi
Ninne ...Punnarunnathaay

Oru Chempaneer Pooviruthu Njan Omalle
Oru Vela Ninnerku Neetiyilla
Enkillum Engane Neeyarinju
Ente Chempaneer Pookunnathaay Ninakkaayi
Sugandham Parathunnathayi Ninakkai
Parayu...Nee Parayu..
Parayu...Nee Parayu..

Oru Chempaneer Pooviruthu Njan Omalle
Oru Vela Nin Nerku Neetiyilla....

Dreamzzzzzzzz......

Yesterday I was surfin thru all the channels on TV when i saw something on Discovery that i put the remote down for some time...the thing that caught my eye was that they were showing a lady sleeping on a bed and it looked as if a whole body X ray was taken of her ..eeks!!..dint look pretty..was bout to swtich to something else when I heard something bout dreams..so i thot ..ok lemme hear what the "Discovery Channel" ppl 's take on dreams is. In that they were sayin that its when we dream that all things that we see and hear in the day gets stored in ur brain...it filters out what is needed and discards what u dont need....for example...if u r travellin to some place..it removes the images of all the ppl who may have been travellin with u..(unless u took interest in the cute guy or the hot chick :P hehe) but keeps the images of the stops that you crossed on your journey..(u know u might need them the next time you want to go to the same place)...hmmmm..I felt that quite intresting...cos the previous day I had dreamt that one of my frens (who had been tryin to concieve) finally tellin me that she was expecting...maybe I was wishing that for her so much in my consious brain that it came into my dreams..when I told her bout that dream..was she happy or not :D...
I have all kinds of dreams....the weirdest one wud be ..hehe..i feel so stupid.. :P. It was after the Hritik Roshan's(HR) first movie was released...Kaho Na Pyaar Hai with Amisha Patel(AM)..ok will tell u what the dream was all bout..me n HR are on a yatch(yeah yeah like the one in the song -Pyaar ki kashti mein:D) n we were like havin a good time n was I happy that he was talkin to me n not to anyone else...n guess what AM came in between n tried to lure HR away from me(huh!!)..but HR was so smitten by me ..he was like "AM please leave me alone..dont disturb" :P hehehe...he liked me so much better that AM....that he told her to get lost..GOD only knows why i had that dream...ok..i was a fan at that time..ok a HUGE fan :P but i felt so weird after having that dream....
My mom used to tell me when I was lil that if you see bad dreams then it means something good is goin to happen...donno if that is true but anyways it used to make me feel good after a bad dream...i have had dreams where my whole family is dead and I am the only one left...that was the worst dream i had...but know wat in that dream...the ppl who had come to give their condolences were all movie stars :S(i know its weird..dont open ur mouth like that)..Maybe when I was a kid i secretly hoped that I wud be a movie star :D...no one wud hav thot me to think that way for sure..he he..I remember that night i was so scared, i ran to my dad and was sobbing uncontrolably..he hugged me tight n told me dont worry...i am there for you...i keep that in my mind now also...there are only 2 men in my life whom i wud trust to be there when i ever need anything..one is my hubby...and the other is my dad...both are gems!!!!! My blessings from God!!
I truly feel I am a blessed person (so the title)..i have always been lucky...my mom says that for my any need or wish...there is no stop..n if there is a stop, it has always been for my own good...i am gettin all senti :P lemme stop here...started writin something but went to many other things :) so what!!! i can write what i want..hehehe..
So back to Discovery, so what they said in the end was that u can control your dreams and make them work for you..like if you are an artist n you want a new idea for your painting....when you dream think of a wall where your new painting is ready for you....Voila!!..You have the new idea for your new work...:)
They also said something about kids mugging up stuff before the exam and doin a night-out(not sleepin the whole night)..in those cases your brain doesnt get the opportunity to save all this stuff u have piled on top of it..so all kids who have exams in the future always remember "Always sleep well before an Exam"(I surely used to do that unless my roomies kicked me for bein so laid back :)) i need my sleep..come wat may..its the case when i was studyin n now when i am workin too...it is also the root of many fights too =) ....hehehe...
So all u people out there....keep dreaming....u r not too young or too old to dream whatever you want :) zzzzzzzzzz......snore ..snore

Internet Banking

In this age of the internet taking over all comtempory ways of doin stuff from booking tickets to findind a suitable match for loved ones...i am a baby..i have feared from doing internet banking from the time i got my online account. I would always look at others with awe n admiration who did this with so much ease...today finally i took my baby steps after coming to know yest that my 60+ dad pays all his bills thru the net :O. He is a true expert in this and yest he gave me this pep talk that its not goin to kill u ..hehe..so finally i made up my mind to try it and not be scared..n voila I had a successful login(after 2 failed ones;))..yeah yeah..thats may not be great but still..i can take my time and learn..its not all that complicated but still sort of scared ..what if someone ran off with all my hard earned money :( then what wud I do..ok..now Im gettin freaked out again...mummmmmmmmeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee.....oh god what if some hacker is keeping a tab on my system n he gets my password...ok ok i have to stop becoming paranoid...lemme be +ve :D.

Anyways its not so hard to do things on your internet account. Things are like clearly mentioned and you can select any options that you want. My next aim to get a pan card and then start a demat account and then finally start trading...thats another thing I have been wanting to do for ages..will start that also soon..

So i can cross of 2 things from my "things to do before i die" list :) One was to start writing a blog and the second opening my internet account. I ll keep you posted as and when the other things get fulfilled :)...maybe some day i ll share my wishlist too ;)..ok now i have to start working :P..babaaay(thats how my 1 yr ol neice says bye bye :))

Beginning

I donno why I have this desire to write a blog...I have been wanting to write one since the first time I read one...i have no clue till when I ll write cos I lose interest in things prettty fast :) hmm...so..mmm..........ok..i can keep puttin these dots forever and ever, so let me put a stop to them "a full stop". my bike has broken down so i have to take the office cab to go home :( not that my house is very far or anything just an 8 min walk;) he he..yeah but its not that i'm lazy to walk either..its dark n its night right...so i ll be lazy..i can do what i want :P ..yest my bike finally gave up on me after waiting 6 months to get itself serviced..poor thing ...but i cant help it..i dint get the time..oh oh..time for me to leave.. my cab's at 7..so dont want to miss it..bayeeeeeeeee(who am i talkin to :S)