Hi dear fellow,
You are now becoming more and more of an individual nowadays. You are just 19 months but I see that now you are very well capable of communicating your needs and requirements ..and cause a ruckus when they are not met (which does make me angry and laugh at the same time...hehe..)watch tchoupi and doudou over and over again...say few words in Malayalam, some in English and maybe some in French too although till now I have only been able to make out one that's Au Revoir.
There are a lot of things Amma wants to tell you. A lot of things Amma wants you to learn...its not academics or any sort of thing like that. It is mainly life lessons or rather how Amma would like you to be as a person in this world.
Firstly, have lot of friends. But always have a few best friends with whom you can share everything. With whom you don't have to hide anything. Who you can fall back on in the time of a crisis or who will rejoice with you in your happiness. I know you are a boy n will grow up to be wonderful man but it's ok to have a shoulder to cry on. Let it be a girl or a boy. Let it be one or two or even 3. But let there be at least someone. Who is your friend and also friends with your wife and your kids. A family friend. Amma would love to have something like that for you. And I tell you now Vi, the only way to have such a friend is to be one like that. Be a shoulder for someone else. Be the anchor in someone's life. Be the person 1,2 or 3 people can depend on with all their secrets, their pain and sorrow. Be the person who rejoices in their happiness. Be there for people. Don't be insular. Amma would never want that for you.
Secondly, have respect for women. Any age, size, shape. Respect women and show that respect. I will tell you an example of how a young man shows his respect. And how he earns the respect of a lady much elder to him. One day this young man, a cousin of your Papa, was invited to go to lunch with Papa and Amma. He was studying for a course there in bangalore. Amma had you at that time and you were a small baby. We were all getting into the car and Amma was usused to doing everything by herself, carrying you, your baby bag and getting into the car on her own. When this young boy or rather as I said before young man saw me getting in, he got out of the car quick, took Amma's bag and asked Amma to get in the car comfortably. He waited till we were safe inside and closed the door after we had settled in. After that only he got into the car. Amma was so amazed and impressed by his behaviour that I have a respect for him always. Although I have met him only few times I know I will never forget him nor his actions. And Vi, this was not a one time incident. Every time Amma travelled with you, if he was there, he would make sure that he closes the door after we get it. It shows the amount of respect he has for ladies.
So you should learn to be a gentleman.
Passing comments on various girls and women and their attire may be in fashion even when you grow up. But dear boy, I am telling you it is not a nice thing to do. Just think how would you feel if someone says something nasty about Amma or if you have a sister about your sister. Or just think how you would feel if you are being commented upon by a group of girls along with some sly looks...ewww..makes Amma's skin crawl when I think about the times men n boys have passed comments on Amma. It's not a good feeling dear. I don't like it and I m sure 100% or maybe 90% of the people will not like it either.
So no comments! ;)
There are a lot more things that I want to tell you but maybe next time in the next letter.
Au revoir !!
~Amma
