I did it for you!

Why is it that people want to keep doing things and then go on to say that, "I did it for so and so". What does it really mean? Does a person do an action only for the sake of another? It seriously takes away everything from the action, once you utter those words.        The mother who says to the son "I stayed in the marriage with your father for so long, I did it for you". The husband who says to his wife, "I took a job in a foreign place, I did it for you". Try that dialogue when you kill someone and tell the person in front of you that you did it for them. The judge is not going to convict the person whom you did it for, he's surely going to convict you. Hah! I feel people seriously need to take responsibility for their actions. To say that you did something for someone else, is just an easy way out of difficult situations or maybe a good way to emotionally blackmail someone.        I won't and can't do anything for another person. Before you get me wrong let me explain. Situation 1. I bring up my son in a particular way. I do it because I want him to grow up to be a certain kind of human being, the kind one. The little one has no clue about it. He certainly doesn't want it. I am not doing it for him. I am doing it for me, myself. What if , 20 years old down the line, I tell him. I brought you up in a certain way, I did it for you :O. If he has my genes in him, he will say, at least in his mind, "who asked you to??" :) Situation 2. I make food that my husband likes. (not always , nor daily, but the days that I do) I don't do it for him. In the sense that he has not asked me to make it. I do it because I want him to feel happy. That's my requirement. It is not something he has asked for nor that he wanted. So I can't say that I did it for him. I did it for myself. I wanted to feel the happiness that I get when he sees his favorite food on the  table. Hence I did it for myself. I think and truly believe that every action that we human beings take should be our responsibility. Your parents look after you. It may seem like they have no other choice. But if you think about the millions of orphans out there, you will know that your parents did have a choice too. You look after your parents, do you do it for them? You do it for yourself. It is a choice you make. Your parents don't ask it from you.  Be brave enough to take responsibility for your actions whatever they may be. You might have done it for another person but remember you chose to do it for them. It is always your choice. And you have no rights to blame the other person for your choices.